The irony of life is that failure represents a process whereby one learns valuable lessons in trying to achieve whatever he or she sets out to attain in life. I’m not saying one should continually makes mistakes in life.
Making the same mistakes and expecting a different result in what you set out to achieve is a wrong approach.
Making the same mistakes and expecting a different result in what you set out to achieve is a wrong approach.
The way you respond to the mistakes in your mind and your actions in making corrections is what is important. When you make corrections to the mistake, you are not expected to make the same mistake again.
Nevertheless, you should not rule out completely the fact that you are not to make other mistakes.
Nevertheless, you should not rule out completely the fact that you are not to make other mistakes.
If you make the same mistake again, it simply shows you never really learned the lesson the first time. But you should not crucify yourself for that! Learn the lesson and move ahead and focus on what you want to achieve.
When you make new mistakes and make necessary corrections, you are simply gaining experience.
That is why we have the very popular saying, “experience is the best teacher.” It should be more aptly stated, “Mistakes are the best teachers”.
All said, it is usually better to learn from the mistakes of others since nobody likes to get bad news or an unpleasant result from his or her efforts.
All said, it is usually better to learn from the mistakes of others since nobody likes to get bad news or an unpleasant result from his or her efforts.
Microsoft Chairman Bill Gates addressed the issue when he said, “Bad news can be really disheartening. When you get news of a product failure, there’s a real temptation to think, Oh, that’s as much as I want to know about that! I think I’ll go home now. I think I’ll work on something else.”
It is indeed correct that bad news can be devastating. For example, Mary Kay Ash of Mary Kay Cosmetics lost her spouse about a month to the start of her business, coupled with the fact that her banker and lawyer earlier told her to forget her idea.
Ordinarily, the death of her husband would have signaled the end of her dreams. However, she never gave up and today Mary Kay cosmetics are a household name.
Ordinarily, the death of her husband would have signaled the end of her dreams. However, she never gave up and today Mary Kay cosmetics are a household name.
You should and must find a way of overcoming bad news or an unpleasant and unexpected event for the simple fact that the pain would eventually go away with time.
There are many sources of bad news or unpleasant situations – death of a loved one, failed marriage, abandonment by a lover over a pregnancy, examination failure, rape, torture, armed robbery attack, business failure, eviction from home, loss of a job, rejection by people (e.g. music producers, publishers) from whom you seek professional help, etc.
Some of these incidents leave deep scars on one’s mind. However, if you continue to hold on to the experience it would only deepen the scar on your mind.
And if you’ve followed the posts on this blog, you should by now know the importance of avoiding negative thoughts from reaching your mind.
And if you’ve followed the posts on this blog, you should by now know the importance of avoiding negative thoughts from reaching your mind.
One way of letting go is when you understand and acknowledge the fact that the world has not ended for you; that the situation or event has happened and the pain is only temporary and will eventually go away.
In addition, you then begin to make a conscious effort at rising above the pain and moving on with your life by blocking out the associated pains of the experience and focusing on a solution.
In addition, you then begin to make a conscious effort at rising above the pain and moving on with your life by blocking out the associated pains of the experience and focusing on a solution.
For business people, Microsoft boss Bill Gates said further, “Once you embrace unpleasant news not as a negative but as evidence of a need for change, you aren’t defeated by it. You’re learning from it.”
He said this because as he also revealed in his book Business @ the speed of thought Microsoft has had its own share of product failures and the valuable lessons learnt were used to produce other outstanding products!
He said this because as he also revealed in his book Business @ the speed of thought Microsoft has had its own share of product failures and the valuable lessons learnt were used to produce other outstanding products!
Gates further advises business people when he says, “Listen to your customers and take their bad news as an opportunity to turn your failures into the concrete improvements they want.”
It is when you understand the value of making honest mistakes and learning from them that the word failure takes a completely new meaning; not as something bad but as something that one encounters on the way to success.
It is when you understand the value of making honest mistakes and learning from them that the word failure takes a completely new meaning; not as something bad but as something that one encounters on the way to success.
When we talk of someone having experience or becoming an expert in a field, it is important to note that it cannot be positive events alone that made the person an expert.
Exposure to negative events and learning and making the necessary corrections is what makes the person become an expert to be able to proffer solutions to similar or related problems in the future.
That is precisely how Consultants emerge in any industry. They have been able to learn from their mistakes and those of others and applied the lessons to solve problems for others who encounter them.
That is precisely how Consultants emerge in any industry. They have been able to learn from their mistakes and those of others and applied the lessons to solve problems for others who encounter them.
Kyle Rote Jr., a soccer player, once said “There is no doubt in my mind that there are many ways to be a winner, but there is really one way to be a loser and that is to fail and not look beyond the failure.”
The lessons to learn from this post on failure are obvious. You need and have to change your perception of failure from now on if you want to achieve in whatever endeavor you undertake in life.
Change the wrong thinking on failure, as something to be avoided at all costs, which you were exposed to at formal school and by any other person you have ever encountered.
Embrace failure as a process or processes you learn lessons from to give you the needed experience to become an achiever in life.
Change the wrong thinking on failure, as something to be avoided at all costs, which you were exposed to at formal school and by any other person you have ever encountered.
Embrace failure as a process or processes you learn lessons from to give you the needed experience to become an achiever in life.
Remember that there is one thing you must do when you encounter events labeled as failures on your way to achieving and beyond: never let them defeat you because you need the lessons they contain.
What should be of importance to you to focus on, always, is a solution to the problem.
What should be of importance to you to focus on, always, is a solution to the problem.
I tell you in all honesty, there is ALWAYS a solution to the problem if you would look beyond the failure and apply yourself to finding a solution.
And please begin today to teach others what you’ve just learnt about failure so that you can contribute to reversing the wrong perceptions most people have about it.
And please begin today to teach others what you’ve just learnt about failure so that you can contribute to reversing the wrong perceptions most people have about it.
I will end with an acronym on the word MISTAKES created by leadership expert and motivational speaker John Maxwell. John said mistakes are:
Messages that give us feedback about life.
Interruptions that should cause us to reflect and think.
Signposts that direct us to the right path.
Tests that push us toward greater maturity.
Awakenings that keep us in the game mentally.
Keys that we can use to unlock the next door of opportunity.
Explorations that let us journey where we’ve never been before.
Statements about our development and progress.
More wealth secrets next week.
(c) copyright Gabriel Ama.
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